Friday, January 30, 2015

11 Things Empty Nesters Want Parents Of Little Kids To Know

1. In addition to marking down your child's first words, record the first conversations you had with them about whether or not there's a Santa Claus -- or a God.
Often we're so busy obsessively recording every milestone during our child's baby and toddler years that we forget to take video of a typical family dinner, with everyone doing nothing but laughing -- or arguing. Think you will remember what your kid's bedroom looked like when they were SEVEN? You might. I don't. Believe me when I say this: These every day moments are really what you will want to remember after your kids fly the coop.
2. The older the children get, the more you realize how precious the time is. 
"When they are little you feel they will be that way forever! Therefore, take as many family vacations together as possible. They make lasting memories of real quality time spent together. Once they go to college and have their own responsibilities, it just gets more complicated." -- S.W.
3. Get to know their friends. 
"Encourage them to have their friends to your house. You learn more about your kids from whom they befriend than anything else. Be non-judgmental and open to discussion about anything so when they are away they won't feel like anything is off limits to discuss with you if they need to." -- L.S.
4. Have family dinners often and make them a priority. 
"The dinner table is a place for sharing all that's important with unconditional love, respect and openness to discussing ideas. Make it a safe place to be heard and not judged." -- J.C.
5. At the end of every year, sit down with your child and write down their memories of the past 12 months. 
"When they turn 18, get those pieces of paper out and look back on all that's happened." -- K.P.
6. Go to every play, sporting event, or awards assembly you possibly can. 
"You never want to be that parent who had to work and, therefore, just couldn't be there for your child." -- A.G.
7. Listen from the front seat when they sit in the back."Don't comment. You will learn more about their daily lives when you are chauffeuring them back and forth to activities than you can imagine." -- A.T.
8. If your kid tells you a secret, and asks you not to tell anyone, don't.
"If you tell your girlfriends, it will get back to them. It really will." -- K.L.
9. Unplug when you're with your kids."When your kid talks to you, PLEASE turn off the cell phone and the computer. You can check email after they go to bed." -- E.K.
10. Help your kids figure out their strengths and interests."Try to help your child discover things they are truly passionate about, and then nurture those interests." -- S.W.
11. Be affectionate -- always."When your child hugs you, never be the first one to let go." -- M.M.

5 SCRIPTURES TO PRAY WITH PRESCHOOLERS

1. Psalm 23:1 ~ "Lord, You are my shepherd. You take care of me." Psalm 23 is one of the first full chapters I memorized with my children - even my young children! Take the time to show your children pictures of shepherds, explain what a shepherd does and how he cares for his sheep. Then relate how God is a shepherd to us.
2. Psalm 27:1 ~ "Lord, You are my light and my salvation, whom shall I fear?" If you have a child struggling with fear, this is a great verse to memorize. This chapter has become one of my life chapters. I struggle with people pleasing and worrying/fearing what others think of me. So, not only will this help with childhood fears, it will help with the adult sized fears in our own lives as well.
3. Psalm 40:1 ~ "Lord, I wait patiently on you, and You hear my prayers." What a powerful truth for a child to learn at an early age!! We wait on the Lord! Oh how I hope that my children know the Lord is always at work even when we can't SEE what He may be doing in any given situation! And then, this verse gives children confidence because HE DOES hear their prayers!!
4. Psalm 51:1 ~ "Lord, have mercy on me, You are merciful, wash away my sins." If we can teach our children to go to God when they sin, if we can teach them that even in our sin, HE IS MERCIFUL, what a powerful testimony that will be in their lives!
5. Psalm 119:11 ~ "I am hiding Your word in my heart, Lord, that I might not sin against you."This is one of those verses that we carry with us our entire lives. I wish I had learned it at a younger age...I wish I had known the power of God's Word to transform hearts, convict, teach and comfort. May our children know this early on, Lord Jesus!